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In Lifestyle on
May 8, 2018

12 Tips To Help You Get Out Of Any Slump And Back In Creative Alignment

A few weeks ago I was dealing with a major creative slump, y’all! I was trying to get myself together after a death in my family and dealing with all the freelance work I was fortunate enough to do, and The Happy Arkansan honestly fell by the wayside. It took a while for me to feel comfortable getting back into regularly scheduled blog events.

I have been posting regularly for the past few weeks, even though I recently decided only to promise two posts a week. I have been feeling more inspired lately, and I wanted to share some ways to get realigned after you have fallen into a slump.

Related Reading: How To Chase Your Creative Dreams With Diet Coke®

 12 Tips To Help You Get Out Of Any Slump And Back In Creative Alignment | A slump of any kind is the worst! Today, on the blog, I am sharing my best tips and tricks for getting out of your rut and back in creative alignment. #Creativity #CreativeMillennial #MillennialAdvice

1. Pray About It

Sometimes you just gotta spend some time with God (however you choose to address Him/Her.)

I know that praying isn’t for everyone, but it helps me to spend some time praying and thinking about my next move.

Often we worry so much about things, but that doesn’t help in the long haul. Work hard, pray, and then let it go.

Pray about it and wait for a response.

When God answers, don’t ask for a different answer. Often we get a million signs pointing us in one direction, but we still choose to defy it.

If you are gonna pray about it, don’t fight about it later.

2. Journal

Another thing I love to do when I am in a slump is journal.

I am not all woo-woo, but I do believe what you put out there, you get back.

With that being said, don’t forget to journal about the positive things happening in your life.

At the end of the day, I am all about putting out more positive energy than you do negative energy. You can journal about your problems, but don’t forget to journal about your not problems.

3. Get Outside

A few weeks ago I started sitting outside in the afternoon.

I am usually one to spend all day cooped up inside, but a few times a week I like to spend about an hour and just sit outside in a lawn chair close to sunset.

Part of the time I just sit with my own thoughts and sing songs to myself.

The other part of that time I take my laptop outside, and I write.

Sometimes when you are getting out of a slump, you just need to do whatever you do in a different location.

That might be outside, that might be in a coffee shop, that might be in a different country, etc. 

Changing up your scenery does wonders for your realignment.

It may not be the most permanent solution, of course, but some new scenery never hurt anyone.

4. Take Your Time

Life is dandy when the stars all align, and you can walk confidently in your purpose, but sometimes that takes time.

You can’t force yourself back into alignment, so don’t be afraid to take your time.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you sit around, do nothing, and mope around all day.

Quite the opposite.

It means you take your time while doing.

All these activities can be done over time.

Don’t rush or try to force alignment. You will know when you are properly aligned.

Do something to get you closer to that alignment every day, and give those activities time to work.

5. Think About The Bigger Picture

So often, we are out of alignment with our purpose because we get stuck in the day to day grind.

You need to give yourself some inspiration.

Create a mood board or poster board with your why on it.

Then you can make sure that at least some of the activities you do every day get you to that why.

Also, think about your activities in a different way.

Yes, babysitting in and of itself might not get you closer to your why. BUT: babysitting leads to income that you can save that will allow you to feel comfortable pursuing your why later on.

So, those small tasks that you find yourself doing may not be directly related to your purpose and passion, but they will make walking in your purpose that much easier.

6. Seek Some Guidance

Sometimes, you just need some help.

Whether that’s hiring someone to coach you, listening to a podcast, crying to your sister, or anything in between––that’s up to you.

We cannot go through this world alone.

It’s okay to lean on and get help from others.

Humans are social creatures, and God made us this way for a reason.

So, instead of holding all your thoughts in and suffering through this time alone, reach out to other people who are here to help you.

See that counselor, hire that coach, reach out to friends online and in person.

 12 Tips To Help You Get Out Of Any Slump And Back In Creative Alignment | A slump of any kind is the worst! Today, on the blog, I am sharing my best tips and tricks for getting out of your rut and back in creative alignment. #Creativity #CreativeMillennial #MillennialAdvice

7. Read Motivational Books

No, I am not talking about the sappy motivational books.

I am talking about the ones that will make you feel like a total badass.

The ones that will tell you the truth instead of sugarcoating it and giving you awful advice.

Get an Audible subscription and listen to some audiobooks. Or simply take some time to read a chapter a night.

I really enjoyed “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck” by Mark Manson and “You’re A Badass” by Jen Sincero.

8. Start Before You Get Aligned

As I talked about in the Take Your Time section, I want you to take the time, but I want you to do so actively.

Sometimes you just need to dive head first into your work.

Even when the ground is shaky.

Even when you aren’t sure what your next move should be.

Even when taking the next step feels like it might actually make you vomit.

Sometimes you just need to do something that will take your life to the next level.

Take it from Nike and Just Do It!

9. Rethink What Aligned Means To You

We often get so caught up in what aligned means to other people that we don’t think about what aligned means to us.

Maybe you are aligned, just not the cookie cutter definition of what aligned usually looks like.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t work to better yourself or work to focus your life.

It does mean that you may want to reconsider where you got your definition of aligned from.

Determine if this definition is serving or hurting you.

10. Refocus On What’s Important

It’s so easy to get out of whack with what’s actually important in your life.

Think back to your bigger picture, then look at what you are currently spending your time on.

If those don’t align, get back to the basics.

For me, this required that I scale back the promised blogs on The Happy Arkansan and my other site Amanda Cross Co. I wanted to offer both audiences the best of me, and I couldn’t do that while posting 5 times a week.

Look at your personal commitments. What fat could you trim? Likely, quite a bit of random responsibilities you have gathered over the years.

11. Support Yourself

You gotta support yourself because no one else is gonna support you like you.

This means:

  • Updating your sleeping routine
  • Eating right on a daily basis
  • Getting a bit of outside and/or exercise time in
  • Investing in your mental health

These are things I am working on the most as I try to make sure that I am more aligned and in tune with myself.

Don’t be afraid to take all aspects of yourself more seriously.

12. Get Your Space Together

It’s the perfect time for a little spring cleaning.

I have been slowly cleaning the random spaces in my life. I gotta lot to do because I am a messy person by nature.

Mess clogs up your natural alignment, though, as much as I think most creatives would hate to admit it.

Don’t be afraid to throw some stuff away so you can get back in alignment!

Conclusion

A slump (creative or otherwise) is never fun, but you don’t have to wallow in it.

I hope that today’s article helped you think of slumps differently.

You don’t have to be helpless when a slump heads in your direction!

Have you ever experienced a slump? How did you get out of it?

In fashion, Lifestyle on
April 2, 2018

Seven Ways To Focus On Self-Care When You Feel Like You Don’t Deserve It

Why are you taking a break? You have a to-do list that’s like a mile long. Girl, what are you doing?

I think we all have that voice in our head telling us that we have to work our fingers to the bone. That we gotta hustle til the world stops. That we will sleep when we are dead.

Yep, that sounds crazy, doesn’t it?

We live in this world of 24/7 hustle. Go go go.

Stop.

Smell the flowers.

And focus on self-care and loving yourself even if you don’t feel like you deserve it.

Here’s how to do just that:

 Seven Ways To Focus On Self-Care When You Feel Like You Don't Deserve It | Self-care isn't for just when you feel good about things happening in your life. You must focus on self-care even when you don't feel like you deserve it. Today's post will help you understand the importance of self-care everyday and give you tips on how to take care of yourself every day.

1. Know Burnout Doesn’t Help Anyone

I know you may not always have time for self-care, but I have to ask, who does burnout help?

Your body will find a way to settle you down after a while, and you won’t have any control over how that happens. When you focus on self-care, your body can take time to rest without having to force you to rest. When the body has to force you to take a break, it usually comes in the form of sickness, and you don’t need that in your life.

Hustling and going until you experience burnout is the opposite of what you should be doing. I know you see a million books, influencers, and quotes about the hustling lifestyle, but hustling isn’t forever. Those same people who tell you to hustle every day have teams of people behind them supporting them and helping them make their dreams a reality.

Don’t ever think that this all has to fall on your shoulders!

2. Focus On The Small Things You Can Do Daily

There are many small tasks that you can do daily to focus on self-care. All your self-care habits don’t have to be these grand gestures! Here are a couple of small things you can do each day to focus on you:

  • Unplug: You don’t have to be connected to social media 24/7. Give yourself a social media curfew or just lock your phone away in another room for a few hours a day while you are working. I promise your friend’s selfies will be there when you get back!
  • Read A Book: Reading is such a fun activity. There are so many different types of books from self-help to fun fiction books that can change your life. Mix it up and read a variety of books. You can also listen to audiobooks!
  • Listen To Music: Listening to music can instantly boost your spirits! Create a playlist of songs that hype you up when you feel down or follow someone else’s playlists on a site like Spotify. You will love having some music in your ears each day.
  • Meditate: There are many meditation apps out there. A lot of meditation apps have exercises that take as few as five minutes to complete. Who doesn’t have five minutes to spare to recenter and get back to yourself? If you don’t, you are probably lying to yourself! Use these apps to focus on you and love yourself daily.
  • Face Masks: Face masks are getting cheaper by the minute. Get a face mask on sale and use it when you need a little bit of self-care each week.

This is just the start when it comes to small things you can do daily. Many simple things will help you focus on being the best version of yourself you can be. Don’t hesitate to use these activities to better yourself.

3. Give Yourself Time Off During The Week

I like to take at least one day off a week. As a content creator and freelancer it’s hard to take off multiple days, but if you can just give yourself one day a week, that would be fantastic.

Besides my one day off a week, I also like to give myself a few hours on the weekdays off. I like to eat dinner, spend time with my family, and watch a few episodes of television without feeling guilty each night.

Plus, I also make it my mission to be done with my work by midnight each night.

All of these things help me focus on self-care and take some time to myself each day.

You have to find the balance that works for you though. The boundaries I set up for myself may not work best for you. It’s all about trial and error until you can find some down time that works best for who you are as a creative and a person.

4. Use Free Or Low-Cost Self-Care Techniques

If you feel like you don’t deserve self-care, you probably don’t want to spend a ton of money on self-care. Start with the free or low-cost versions of self-care first, then work your way up to the splurges.

There many small free or low-cost things you can do to focus on your self-care like:

  • Take a walk
  • Cook a great dinner at home
  • Go to a movie matinee
  • Sleep in on the weekends
  • Go to a free/low-cost workout class
  • Have a photo shoot with a friend
  • Go window shopping
  • Hang out at a coffee shop
  • Have a girls night in with a friend
  • Listen to a fun podcast

Use these methods to take care of yourself when you don’t feel like you deserve it because they don’t take up that much time or money.

5. Create Manageable To-Do Lists

When you don’t feel like you deserve self-care, chances are you aren’t living up to some part of your life. Maybe you don’t feel like you are getting enough stuff done on a daily basis. I feel like we create these unreasonable expectations for what we can actually manage. We write out these miles long to-do lists, and then we get upset when we can’t actually get through the entire list.

Stop doing this.

You need to focus on creating small to-do lists you can actually manage. Start small, and then when you get better at work, you can produce lengthier to-do lists.

Also, stop putting every minute action on your to-do lists. Keep them short, simple, and to the point, so you can actually get stuff done.

Related Reading: 5 Ways to Make Your To-Do Lists More Effective by Fast Company

6. Manage Your Time Wisely

I have been obsessed with the Pomodoro technique for a while, and I have even talked about it on the blog before. I love this technique because it makes me re-evaluate how I am spending my time. If I am not using the Pomodoro technique, I can often waste my time for hours on end. With the Pomodoro technique, I may have one bad session, but I know that I will be re-evaluating my time every 30 minutes or so.

If you have a hard time focusing on self-care, you may be thinking about all the stuff you didn’t get done throughout the day. Managing your time better throughout the day will help you get rid of that guilt.

It’s all about getting rid of your procrastination and getting focused on the task at hand. If you can do that, you will be well on your way to effective time management.

7. Say No To One Thing Daily

The only person you need to say yes to is yourself. If you don’t want to do something, don’t make yourself do it. You don’t owe anyone anything.

Don’t be a yes person! Of course, you don’t want to say no to everything passively, but you also don’t want to say yes to everything passively.

If you put too much on your plate, it will feel like you don’t deserve time off because you have so much to do. Don’t put those things on your plate to begin with! Be upfront with yourself about what you can reasonably manage and then go from there.

You have every right to tell someone no. Do it for your self-care!

Conclusion

I hope that this advice has helped you today.

Start small, one tiny foot forward. Eventually, you will get better at choosing to love yourself and take care of yourself.

Force yourself if you have to at first. Then eventually once you realize how amazing it feels to take a break, it will come like second nature to you.

You got this girl, and you deserve this too.

Bloopers

Just casually closing the eyes always.

When you are trying to get a cute picture playing with your hair, but you get this instead.

The queen of closing my eyes when they need to be open.

Get The Look:

The dress in today’s outfit is from SheIn. I am wearing a size 2X here and it fit pretty nicely as that is my normal size. This dress also comes in another color if you are interested. I will be sharing my full SheIn review on the blog soon as I just shot the last outfit of the day with my SheIn clothes from my mini-haul. Going to give you my honest opinions about shopping with the site soon!

This is an affiliate link to the dress:


Kimono Sleeve Surplice Wrap Botanical Dress – $25.00

from: SheIn

In fashion, Lifestyle on
September 29, 2017

What To Do When You Feel Uninspired By Your Wardrobe

Disclaimer: This post was brought to you by ELOQUII. They graciously provided some of the pieces for me to style in this post. All opinions are my own.

A while ago I was rummaging through my wardrobe looking for clothes because I wanted to do a photo shoot, but I couldn’t find anything that I wanted to wear. I am not a style blogger by trade, but I love to add in my own photos whenever possible to help tell the story (or just showcase my style.)

I don’t want you to feel the pain that I did when I was trying to make my outfit work and it just didn’t. So today on the blog I am sharing my tips on what to do when you feel uninspired by your wardrobe.

What To Do When You Feel Uninspired By Your Wardrobe | We all have those days. The time when we ransack our entire room only to be disappointed by the choices in our closet. Today, on the blog, I am sharing my best tips for what to do when you feel uninspired by the clothes in your closet!

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