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In fashion on
November 29, 2017

20+ Places To Get Amazing Plus Size Clothes

This blog post is dedicated to all my curvy babes out there. I love shopping for clothes, and I want to be able to wear cute clothes that don’t break the bank and don’t make me look like a complete and total grandma. So, I am sharing some of the amazing places out there for purchasing plus size clothes so you can wear all my fave clothes. I am going to share some exclusively plus size shops with you first. Then, we will dive into some stores that just have great plus-size sections. Last, I am going to finish up the list with a few subscription services that are geared toward plus size clothing!

When I have actually shopped with the site and have pictures of me in their clothes, I will share posts where you can find those looks on my site!

Note: This post contains affiliate links when I have them.

20+ Places To Get Amazing Plus Size Clothes | Are you a curvy babe? Do you want to get clothes that don't make you look like a grandma? Check out my post featuring 18 places to get amazing plus size clothes so you can feel confident no matter how much meat you have on your bones! #PlusSizeClothes #CurvyBlogger #CurvyClothes #PlusSizeBlogger

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In fashion, Lifestyle on
October 23, 2017

Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

I think that we can all recall a time when we stumbled upon a perfectly curated Instagram feed. Or we have seen a friend’s life that seems so much better than ours on Facebook. We may get a smidge jealous, and that’s hard to deal with. That person’s perfect life or aesthetic flowing seamlessly throughout, making it almost impossible to stop scrolling and looking. No one wants to talk about how difficult their life is, and with that comes a lot of life curation. Today I am talking why comparison (especially in the social media age) is so damaging.

 Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy | Have you ever been scrolling endlessly down someone's perfectly curated Instagram feed and then you feel inadequate? So much of what you see online is curated, and it doesn't show the entire picture. Click through to continue the conversation #selflove #selfimprovement #socialmedia

Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

I have learned over time that comparison is the thief of joy. When you compare yourself there is always going to be someone who is better than you at something, and if you get to the top of anything, you are still gonna feel that way. In today’s rat race, there is really no top. There is always gonna be a new goal or a new accomplishment so that you can feel on top of the world.

It’s so much better to acknowledge that, and move away from the comparison side of life. Once you are all about community over competition, you can begin to really thrive. You shouldn’t be thriving in spite of others, but with others.

It’s so easy to look at someone’s life or look at someone’s accomplishments and get upset. You pore over what you are doing wrong. Why is this person succeeding so much while I am not? Even when you pass that person, there is going to be another person on social media doing it bigger and better than you. It’s a perpetual cycle. You pass someone, and you find another person you need to pass.

You can choose to compare, or you can choose to work on yourself, for yourself. When you choose the latter, you can make a true and positive impact on your own life and soul.

What You See Isn’t Often What You Get

I have been thinking about this so often as of late.

I am sharing these pictures with you, but there is all the stuff you don’t see. I took over 100 photos with my dad, but I am only showing you 12. I don’t think the world needs to see those images. I may pull a few more from them over time, but as of right now, I only want to showcase these select and curated images.

I think back to all the times I was showcasing graduate school as some amazing experience (which I think overall it was) but at the same time I was crying myself to sleep at night.

I think about all the times I was trying to be as positive as possible all the while I was an emotional wreck.

I mean, I have had multiple deaths in my family over the past two years that really impacted me mentally, and I rarely talk about those experiences. Once in 2016 I was dealing with a death, then a month later as a way to recoup from that I did an entire month of positivity on Instagram and then chatted about it on the blog.

What truly got me thinking about this point was not from my own life, but just listening to various podcasts where people openly talked about things like nose jobs and seeing some people talk about various injections and plastic surgeries. I have nothing against those people, but it just fascinates me. So much of what we see is curated by a filter and sometimes even surgeries.

Don’t Be Afraid To Step Away From Social Media

I feel that it’s important to say that it’s okay to step away from social media. Your friends life will keep going regardless of whether you are on Facebook or Instagram to see it. If you are that concerned about what’s going on in someone’s life, send them a text message. If you don’t have their number, they are probably not that important to you to begin with.

Social media has been such an important part of our generation growing up, that it seems almost impossible to get away from it. Sometimes a social media detox is definitely needed though. Go read a book, watch a movie, or even take a nap. Those important social media updates will most likely still be there where you get back.

I mean, what do we really do on social media anyway? We stalk friends from high school we haven’t talked to in years just to see if our lives are better my comparison; we look at an exes page and wonder what could have been and to see if they look happier without us; we check out what our co-worker or student frenemy is up to; etc. Sure, there are many positive aspects to social media, but often it’s used as a comparison game.

It is so important that we take the time to realize when social media is no longer serving us. Even as a blogger, I have to remember to shut it down when necessary.

Conclusion

So, there you have it.

You shouldn’t compare your real life to someone else’s Instagram feed.

You are an amazing, talented, beautiful soul.

Be you and forget the rest.

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In fashion, Lifestyle on
September 29, 2017

What To Do When You Feel Uninspired By Your Wardrobe

Disclaimer: This post was brought to you by ELOQUII. They graciously provided some of the pieces for me to style in this post. All opinions are my own.

A while ago I was rummaging through my wardrobe looking for clothes because I wanted to do a photo shoot, but I couldn’t find anything that I wanted to wear. I am not a style blogger by trade, but I love to add in my own photos whenever possible to help tell the story (or just showcase my style.)

I don’t want you to feel the pain that I did when I was trying to make my outfit work and it just didn’t. So today on the blog I am sharing my tips on what to do when you feel uninspired by your wardrobe.

What To Do When You Feel Uninspired By Your Wardrobe | We all have those days. The time when we ransack our entire room only to be disappointed by the choices in our closet. Today, on the blog, I am sharing my best tips for what to do when you feel uninspired by the clothes in your closet!

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In fashion on
August 11, 2017

How To Grow More Comfortable With Yourself

Today on the blog I am chatting about how to push past your insecurities and grow more comfortable with yourself.

Over my years I have gained a lot of insecurities and it’s a fight every single day to get past them and go to the right direction. All that you see before you today was the product of a ton of work that I am still getting myself through. When you deal with your own insecurities and comfort with yourself, know that you are not the only one dealing with those issues.

Today I am sharing a couple of things you can do to become more comfortable with yourself, plus a whole lotta cute photos from a recent photo shoot I had. If you want more inspirational fashion shoots like this, let me know!

 How To Grow More Comfortable With Yourself | Let's chat about being comfortable with who we are. Many of us have insecurities that we haven't truly dealt with and it's time for that to stop. Click through to learn a couple of things you can do to become more comfortable with yourself.

Say Your Affirmations

First things first, say your affirmations y’all. I know this is such a woo-woo thing to say, but telling yourself something positive is a great way to start each day.

I would encourage you to stand tall in front of your mirror each day and say something nice to yourself for a few minutes.

This works because the more year hear something said out loud, the more you begin to believe it.

Journal Your Feelings

If affirmations aren’t your cup of tea try purchasing a cute notebook and using that to journal about your feelings every day. 

Journals are a great way to become more in tune with your feelings and more comfortable with yourself.

Don’t think of journals in a negative way. Use them to relax every morning or evening; write down all your fears, hopes, dreams, and wishes; and just take the time to settle down and be in the moment.

I would also note how you felt the morning that you journal. After a good handful of journal entries you may be able to recognize some patterns in what made you more likely to feel a certain way. Maybe you felt anxious after each campus game you went to, so you could find a way to go to the games while easing the anxious feelings you get after each game. 

Understand What People Say Is More Of A Reflection On Them

People can be pretty cruel sometimes, but that’s not your problem. 

What people say, feel, and think does not reflect you as a human being. Your worth is not tied to the approval of some random person in class or on the internet. If someone says something nasty about you or makes fun of you, that’s on them.

In order to truly get past the issues that you might have, you have to understand that their thoughts have no control over you. What was said by some a**hole on the internet or in your life has no bearing on your self-worth and awesomeness.

Learn To Laugh At Yourself

When I went back and looked at all these pictures, I realized there was a pretty big stain on my shirt. I could have been upset with my otherwise beautiful pictures and decided not to share them, after all, I see the stain every time I look at these pictures. Instead, I laughed at myself, and realized that’s just what you get with me. I am a complex, messy, positive, and emotional individual. Yes, there is a stain on my shirt, but it’s not the end of the world.

The important thing about tiny imperfections is to remember not to make them too big. Superficial things only have the weight that we give them. If you don’t give the stain on your shirt any weight in your life, it won’t matter. Laugh it off, and dance like no one’s watching.

Realize You Are Not Alone

I promise you, everyone is dealing with some sort of insecurity about them.

People don’t go online and share all their negative feelings. They go to a therapist, talk with really close friends/family, keep it bottled up inside, etc. Either way, people don’t actively talk about their bad days with the world.

If you are feeling down about yourself and not comfortable with yourself, you better believe that there are SO many people feeling the exact same way as you do.

Do More To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

For me, as crazy as this sounds, I started posting more content about myself online. Images featuring fashion I was wearing, blog posts with fashion infused in them, etc. That coupled with just wearing new an interesting outfits really helped me embrace my inner awesome lady.

If you aren’t comfortable with yourself, one of the best thing you can do is push the envelope of what comfortable is to you. More than likely, you can accomplish SO much more than what you think you can. All you need to do is put one foot forward.

Understand When It’s Time To Seek Outside Help

I didn’t want to end this article without telling you the honest truth. Sometimes all the woo-woo affirmations and laughter medicine isn’t enough. There are many positive changes that you can make to become more comfortable with yourself, but it might not really fix your issues.

Talking to a therapist or psychologist about your issues is okay, y’all.

Many of you are in college, which is a good thing, because you can often get free or close to free therapy sessions on your college campus. If you are not on campus or your campus doesn’t offer this, see if it is covered by your healthcare or if you can just find a therapist outside of your healthcare.

Your mental health is the most important thing in the world, girl!

Conclusion

 From the bottom of my heart, I want you to know you are not alone. You are not the only person who is uncomfortable in their own skin. I don’t say this to diminish your thoughts and feelings. Instead, I do this to let you know you are not fighting this battle alone. There are people who love you, want to see you happy, and who think you are the bees knees. When you are in that spiral of not feeling comfortable in your own body, know that there are so many people who feel your pain.

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