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In Lifestyle on
January 19, 2018

5 Ways To Stop Giving A F*ck About What Others Think

Opinions are like buttholes. Everyone has them. As a young adult, you might try your hardest to fit in. To feel accepted. To be loved. After all, according to Maslow and the hierarchy of needs, that’s kind of what we need at this time of our lives. But, as you can probably surmise, this might cause a few problems down the road, especially with our self-esteem. That’s why as millennials, it’s incredibly important to put our B.S filters on high and block out negative things people may think of us. Here’s how to stop giving a f*ck about what other people think.

 5 Ways To Stop Giving A F*ck About What Others Think | In this guest post from Blossom of Blossom The Creativist, you can discover the five things you can do right now so you can stop caring about what other people think. It's not good to care about everyone's opinions, and Blossom shares her best advice for living shamelessly and keeping a close group of friends who you do give a f*ck about.

1. Stop following people on social media that don’t contribute to your life

First of all, you might want to unfollow a LOT of people from social media. Unfollow people that aren’t inspiring you for the better. Unfollow people that make you feel self-conscious. Unfollow people that are not contributing anything in your life but self-doubt and low self-esteem.

You can choose to delete your social media channels altogether or deactivate them for a few months. But if you’re like me, you can’t just delete your social media. You need it to feel connected to the world and your friends. Therefore, fill your media accounts with inspirational, motivational accounts. If you want more positive self-talk accounts, look for pages that use the hashtags #positivetalk or #selflove. 

Distractions don’t always have to be negative. Sometimes social media can help you change your perspective on things, including life.

I remember the days I felt too lazy to work out so I would scroll on Instagram to pass the time, and then WHAM— 5 work-out posts consecutively hit my newsfeed. That was a sign (from God) to stop being lazy and go and workout.

Point is, although you cannot control EVERYTHING, you have the ability to tailor your social media channels to reflect your dreams and goals in life.

2. Live shamelessly

Okay girls, I’m talking specifically to you. Why do we get offended by what other women have to say about us? Women sometimes are known for saying what we want when we want to. And because of that, we are labeled strong, outspoken women. But on the other side, we also can be catty, maybe even judgmental.

So with that being said, why, oh WHY would you look at other women for their judgement, especially on our appearance? We should learn to shamelessly be ourselves. If there is something you love to do that might not be popular among other women or people in general (and it’s not illegal or hurting anyone else), who cares? Own your differences. Own your weirdness. 

For instance, back when winter was a thing in Georgia, I didn’t shave my legs. It’s cold so what the heck was the point of shaving?

But once the weather picked up and people started having heat strokes left and right, I…still refused to buy a razor at the local dollar store. I grew so comfortable without shaving that I didn’t continue to shave. 

And then when summer was around and I was sporting hairy legs and booty shorts, I got nervous. What would other women think? 

But at the end of the day, no one said anything about my legs besides women when they saw it close up. But it didn’t matter, because I was not interested in women, and still not.  Why on earth would I care what other women would think, especially when I’m not trying to please other people?

Wear a different style of clothes if you want to switch it up. Don’t do your hair if you don’t want to. Don’t shave if you don’t need to. Don’t even wear a bra if you don’t need to! Do things that would make you comfortable. And OWN it. People might call you names. People might put you on Snapchat. But once they see that you’re not bothered by it one bit, they’ll find someone else to try and demean. 

However, one thing that may never end will be the talking. People WILL talk about you. There’s a quote that explains that big people talk about big ideas and small people talk about other people.

When people are bored and have nothing to talk about, they talk about other people. I’m guilty myself! I’d do anything to avoid awkward silence so I would bring up other people to add noise. Not a good look. Don’t stress over what people might say about you, because people will always talk. 

3. But have a small circle of friends that’ll tell you when you need to calm down

It’s good to feel confident, powerful, and strong. I don’t believe there is such a thing as too much self-confidence. Keep a small circle of friends that care and support you in what you do. If you have a dream, make friends that support you and encourage you to dream big. But these same friends should also help you start small.

Have a small group of friends that compliment you and are not afraid to critique you. If you need a second opinion on something as grand as a life decision or something smaller like a big chop, head to them.  They’ll hype you up when things get stagnant or boring and calm you down when things get out of hand.

4. Remember that everyone judges

Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist. Everyone judges. Judging simply means to analyze something. Have you ever looked outside to see how the weather is and changed your outfit accordingly? Congrats, you judged. Have you ever swiped right on someone? Congratulations, you’ve judged. It’s IMPOSSIBLE not to, so don’t expect others not to judge. 

5. Focus. On. YOURSELF. 

The most important. You’re not living to prove yourself to others. You’re living to say, “Man, what a wonderful life I lived!” in the end. Do what’s best for yourself financially, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Take care of yourself!

No one else will ever live the life you are living. And you can’t make the most of your life if you’re worried about what other people are thinking of you. People will always talk, and people will always judge. It’s time to stop caring and start living the life you want to live.


About Blossom Onunekwu

Blossom is a health blogger and content marketer. She loves emphasizing the importance of self care and eating to live. Her favorite past times include creative Youtube videos, dancing to Afrobeat music, and eating peanut butter. You can read up on her latest college and health tips at blossomthecreativist.com, follow her on Pinterest, or tweet to her @Blossomandblog.

In graduate school on
November 3, 2017

5 Lessons I’ve Learned In My First Year Of Pharmacy School

When I first stated pharmacy school, I had no idea what I would be getting into. I knew that I would be learning how to take care of patients, what every drug was used for, and how to be an important aspect of the healthcare team. But I had no idea of all of the other lessons that I would learn along the journey. In this blog post, I hope to convey some of the skills and lessons I’ve learned during my first year of pharmacy school. Hopefully this will give you some insight on what it’s like being a pharmacy student.  

Related Reading: 5 Lessons My First Year Of Law School Taught Me

 5 Lessons I've Learned In My First Year Of Pharmacy School | Interested in going to pharmacy school? Makaela of Uniquely Mickie has you covered in this guest post featuring the five lessons that she has learned while attending her first year of pharmacy school.

Your Teachers Do Care

One of the greatest things about being a student is getting to know your professors. My first year in pharmacy school was a tough roller coaster because I had to re-learn how to study and how to study more effectively. I was able to utilize my professors as a resource by going to their office hours and asking questions in class to increase the amount of material I remembered. I’ve learned throughout my college career that your professors really do care about you and want to do whatever it takes to make sure that you pass respectfully.

How Do You Go About Asking For Help?

A simple email asking to speak to the professor about the exam questions, some questions you had on the course material, or just ask for some guidance on how to study the material. You’ll be surprised by their answers, but each of your professors have gone through a similar rigorous program to get to their degrees.

Your Teachers Are A Great Network To Have

In pharmacy school, the students get the opportunity to learn from the greatest professors in their field from practicing pharmacists to PhD professors who do research for the college. All of them have their own sets of networks that they’ve created that students have the opportunity to tap into.

Just asking some prodding questions to your professors could allow you to find an interesting fact about them that interests you. Some of your professors might know people who are doing clinical trials at a big manufacturing firm in Washington, D.C., but you would never know that if you didn’t ask a prodding question or show interest in that field.

Plus, the best part is that your professors want you to succeed in your career and most are more than willing to help you along your journey to your final destination.

Studying Is Different In A More Aggressive Program

Some students can simply read over the material once or twice the night before the exam and still receive a great grade on the exam. Well I promise you in pharmacy school, you won’t be able to do that anymore, and you don’t want to. The material that you are going to be learning is information that you’ll need to know and understand when you begin to practice and work with real patients, instead of the imaginary ones in class. Now you might have to write down your notes, watch educational YouTube videos, or maybe study in a group in the library at midnight. You’ll just have to figure out what works best for you with trial and error throughout the program.

Here are some ways that you can study in pharmacy school:

  • Make flashcards through Quizlet and test yourself
  • Make practice exams to take that are similar to your teachers teaching style
  • Study at the library in the quiet room
  • Study at a local coffee shop or at Starbucks
  • Rewrite your notes in a more simplified format that makes sense to you
  • Take great notes during class
  • Review your notes directly after class or on the same day of the class
  • Wake up early in the morning to look over previous notes or the notes of the day
  • Study in a group where you get to ask questions and work together
  • Create a funny song that helps you remember the testing material
  • Create a flowchart that contains all of the information for the test

It’s Better To Overestimate Than To Underestimate

The worst thing that you can do in pharmacy school is to underestimate the material or classwork that you’ll have to do. It’s definitely better to come overprepared than underprepared. So, take your time and learn how to prioritize your tasks so that you always have enough time to come prepared to class, whether it be for an exam or for the questions asked in class. It’s very similar to coming overprepared for an interview than coming underprepared.

So how do you come prepared to class at all times?

  • Review your notes the night before the class period
  • Keep a document of any questions that you might have to ask the professor during class
  • Rewrite any of your notes that are hard to read in your notebook or print outs
  • Print out your notes or save your notes on your computer before class starts

Who You Know Matters From Here On Out

I briefly mentioned how your professors have amazing connections all around the world in all different fields of pharmacy that you could tap into. Pharmacy is such a small community that basically everyone knows everyone, and if you don’t know someone, more than likely someone that you do know knows that person. That’s how small the pharmacy field is, but that’s not totally a bad thing either. The great part about building a strong network in pharmacy school is that you’ll be recommended for great opportunities just because of the people that you know who can vouch for you.

The best tip that I can give you about networking is to talk to everyone that you see and make a great first impression. You can even go to pharmacy related conferences or meetings in your area to connect with others in your field. Pharmacists or pharmacy officials love seeing students getting involved in their field and making an effort to make a difference. That doesn’t mean that you have to find a cure for cancer, but just getting involved is the best way to network. You’re going to meet some great, important people in the field of pharmacy, and I promise that they’ll remember you for years to come.


About Makaela

Hey, I’m Makaela Premont, a lifestyle and college blogger over at Uniquely Mickie. I’m also a current pharmacy student at the University of South Carolina College of Pharmacy. When I’m not studying drugs and discussing therapy options with doctors, I love reading, swimming, hanging out with friends, and being in front of a camera.

Click here to get access to the FREE pharmacy school interview workbook, in which I give some practice questions to get you ready to kill your entrance interview!

In career on
October 11, 2017

Three Ways to Approach Crying in the Workplace

Before we jump into today’s guest post from Holly Caplan, I wanted to chat about my own experience crying in the workplace, and why I thought Holly’s expertise would help millennial women everywhere.

I have definitely cried at work before. I cried more than a few times at work when I was a graduate and research assistant, and I cry sometimes now (although it’s a lot easier because I am a freelancer and I work form home.) I loved having an office when I was a GA because I could tuck away in my office and let out a few tears when my job got particularly stressful. I tried not to cry in front of my professors though, and I am fairly sure I managed not to cry that way. It’s okay to be emotional, but the more you can control it, the better it will be fore you in the long run.

I know that my audience is filled with bright, amazing women across the country. I thought that Holly could shed some great light on crying in the workplace for y’all, so that you are prepared for what the working world may bring.

But, I am being chatty, so I will let Holly take over from here, she is the expert after all!


For many of us, getting frustrated, flustered or just plain emotional can have us end up in tears. And it happens more often than you may think in the one place you hope it doesn’t: the workplace. Turns out, 41 percent of women and 9 percent of men cry in the workplace and at some point in your career you will probably end up in tears in front of your boss, client or colleagues. It happens to most of us, and it is usually when we don’t see it coming. And even though crying is natural, it is unfortunately seen as weakness in the workplace.

 Three Ways To Approach Crying In The Workplace | Crying is a natural emotion that has many benefits, but crying in the workplace can be seen as a weakness. How do you combat those two notions? Click through to read Holly Caplan's great advice for young adults entering the workforce when it comes to crying.

I’m not stranger to crying in the workplace myself…more than once. Over the years I have cried to different managers out of fear, frustration or humiliation. One example that stands out is when I made the decision to leave a company after years of my commitment to this organization.  My manager and I had agreed to meet in a very large and well-traveled hotel lobby to have this conversation.  When it came time for us to discuss if I wanted to have a future and continue to work with him, my answer was “No.” Upon hearing myself utter this word, the tears came without warning.  And then I started making that ugly cry face that I could not control. I tried to cover my face with my hand to not make him uncomfortable. Instead of having any words for me, he just zoned out and watched ESPN on the hotel lobby’s large plasma TV. I may have well been sitting by myself. Instead, I sat there and cried, snot and all.

Three Ways to Approach Crying in the Workplace

1. Take a Break

If you are in a situation that catches you off guard, and the tears start to flow, politely excuse yourself to a safe space like an empty office or bathroom.  A lot of women don’t do this. Instead, they continue to cry in front of their manager or director – which can really make the dynamic more uncomfortable for the parties involved. It will do you a big favor to take a break to pull it together, wipe your eyes, breathe, and return to the conversation when you are ready. Remind yourself that you are a professional and that you can handle anything. Your interaction will go much more smoothly and comfortably.

2. Be Prepared

Maybe you are asking your boss for a promotion, or addressing a project or issue you feel passionately about. Any of these topics include risk, or putting yourself out there, which can be scary, yet empowering at the same time. Show them how put together, pointed and professional you are. Schedule the meeting in advance, email them your agenda and presentation. The point is, be prepared and think through what could become a potentially teary or emotional situation before you have the conversation. This will help you collect your thoughts and be ready for any objections you may face.

3. Don’t Become a Chronic Crier

This is harsh, but it’s very true.  If you can’t get your emotions under control in the work place, you will be seen as unstable, too emotional and difficult. Chronic crying does nothing to help a reputation.
 
I once worked with a woman who used crying as a way to get attention. When she first joined the company and she would shed tears about something that would frustrate her, I thought, Okay, no big deal. I get it. But after months passed, crying became the norm and it included breaking up with boyfriends, and overall personal issues, I thought, Okay, now I don’t get it. Crying became her modus operandi. If she was having drama, she would call you into her office in the middle of the workday and want you to listen to her issues as she cried. She would try to suck in those around her and involve them in her tears.  This became toxic for us as coworkers because we did not want to be aligned with her behavior. Sadly, people tried to stay away from her and she ultimately isolated herself.

If crying becomes a consistent part of how you handle things, it is not seen in positive light. It not only affects you, it affects those around you. Do your best to not let every challenging situation make you fall apart, whether it is business related or a personal issue.

Conclusion

Crying comes as a result of emotions. We all experience emotions, all day, all the time. Considering careers can consume 40+ hours of your week, it is a big part of what feeds your feelings as it can be a part of your identity. Know that these feelings and emotions are natural – crying is so natural that it is known to shed stress hormones and toxins, which is actually good for you. In the workplace, regard it as natural too, but using the above tips will help you maintain your composure as needed, help you dry your tears and move on with your day in a positive way.


About Holly Caplan

Holly Caplan is an award-winning manager and author of Surviving the Dick Clique: A Girl’s Guide to Surviving the Male Dominated Corporate World. For more information, please visit her website.

About Surviving The Dick Clique

Surviving The Dick Clique opens with a very strong and colorful definition of the dick clique that will lead you into chapters about Holly Caplan’s experiences as she rose through the male dominated corporate ranks in the medical device industry. It reviews her 20 years of stories, lessons and rules for the coming generation of women who dive into the deep waters of this still unchartered territory of the dick clique. Let her experiences and rules apply to whatever male dominated industry you may be venturing into or living in now.


In career, Guest Posts on
October 17, 2016

Everything You Need To Know About Creating An Online Portfolio

I am a huge advocate for creating an online portfolio while in college. Regardless of your program, creating your own portfolio will be incredibly beneficial as you begin to approach the job search process. 

Especially in this day and age, the last thing you want to do is go out into the real world with just a hard copy of your resume. Whether you’re just getting started, or finding yourself stuck along the way, these tips will help you navigate the crazy, often frustrating world of creating an online portfolio.

 Everything You Need To Know About Creating An Online Portfolio | Having an online portfolio is increasingly important for college students. Learn all about creating a great portfolio today.

WHY DO I NEED A PORTFOLIO ANYWAY?

The real question is, why wouldn’t you need a portfolio? It is a collective way to organize the professional materials you’ve created over the years. Think of your portfolio as your own professional biography. 

Added Value

An online portfolio will complement your resume and cover letter. Your resume talks about what you’ve done and when, but your portfolio shows people what you’ve done. Sure, people will find it impressive that you increased your sales by 25%, but you can use your portfolio to show people how you increased your sales by 25%.

More Visibility

The job search process is all about being able to market yourself. With such a competitive job market, every chance to put yourself in front of someone is time well spent. You should make it as easy as possible for hiring managers to be able to find information about you, online. 

GETTING STARTED

Here comes the fun part. Once you get over this bump, the rest will be smooth sailing, I promise.

Understand what you want to get out your portfolio

Are you using your portfolio to gain clients? Are you using it in your job search, or to apply to grad school? Create your content based on who you want to see it.

Purchase a domain

It’s a safe bet trying to purchase something simple like firstnamelastname.com or firstmiddlelastname.com. Sometimes, those are taken and you might have to think outside the box. If you focus on photography or design, you can play around with those words. I’ve had great experiences purchasing domains through GoDaddy and BlueHost. Both companies offer discounts on domains if you purchase your hosting through them, which leads me to the next point.

Choose a hosting company

A hosting platform is the middleman between your domain and your website. It connects the two together. Usually hosting companies are the ones that offer the best deals for purchasing domains. GoDaddy, Bluehost, and HostGator are some of the more popular hosting companies. Many of them make it easy to connect your domain to your blogging platform. Bluehost, for example, lets you connect your website to a WordPress.org account for free, which is a really great perk.

Pick a blogging platform

Tumblr is a good (and free) alternative for housing your portfolio. You can easily create pages and upload photos, videos or text posts. The only challenge is finding a theme you like and feel comfortable using. This is a good option for beginners, or people who want to create something simple that they can expand on, later.

Wix, SquareSpace and Weebly are great options, too because they allow you to drag and drop your layout, making it easy to arrange things how you want them. I knew I wanted a minimalist, black-and-white design so I used Wix to create my own layout. And, honestly, I’m in love with it! They have the optional to add a blog to your website, which is a great way to expand on your professional experiences. Each of these services have monthly fees, but they are definitely worth it for the amount of flexibility they offer. SquareSpace even has a discount option for students!

Blogger and WordPress.org allow less flexibility in terms of design. You’ll have to use a free layout or pay to have someone design one for you. These websites offer a ton of cool features, but also require a bit more back-end knowledge to be able to use them to the best of their abilities.

CREATING COMPELLING CONTENT

So, you have your website. Now, you just have to put the final pieces together. You can add separate pages for the following areas.

A timeline

This is totally optional, but it helps paint a larger picture of your experience and your goals. I created a timeline using Piktochart to document my experience in a way my resume doesn’t. They have a template you can edit, or you can design your own. I wanted to create a minimalist timeline that matched my portfolio layout. If you’re unsure how to go about it, check out my timeline here.

The resume 

Save your resume as a .jpeg file and upload it on its own page. This is a good way to give people a quick chance to look at your resume, without the hassle of making them download it. Some websites have the option to let people download a file straight from the page. If you decide to go with that option, make sure to convert your resume to a .pdf file. Some people are thrown off when they receive resumes that are still in a word file.

Contact page 

If you make it difficult for people to reach out to you, they won’t reach out. Create a contact page with your e-mail address, or even a message option, to help people get in touch with you if they have any questions. I decided to type up my e-mail address along with inserting a message box, so people can reach me in whatever way is most convenient to them. 

OTHER FEATURES TO KEEP IN MIND

Below are some things to think about when thinking about general content of your portfolio.

The home page 

As a rule of thumb, a professor once told me that a home page should include a professional photo of you, your name, and your job title. If you’re still in school, you can add your university, major, and graduation date. 

The biography 

Oh, the dreaded biography! You don’t have be too formal with this. You also don’t want to come across as too laid-back. Try to find a good balance between the two.  

Your situation dictates your tone, so feel free to let your personality shine through! I used my portfolio for my graduate school applications and wanted to come across as professional. Mine is written in third person and is very straight to the point. I list my major and minor, areas of interest, life changing moments, and hobbies. If you’re a photographer who started taking photos with an old Kodak you got for Christmas, talk about that. Maybe your whole life changed when you studied abroad. If so, mention that!

Linking your socials 

LinkedIn is the most common thing people link to in their portfolios. However, I would suggest adding links on your sidebar to your Twitter, Facebook and Instagram accounts. Often times, employers will look for these anyway, so posting them clearly on your portfolio will make it seem like you’re comfortable with them looking at your social media profiles.

AREAS OF INTEREST

We all have specialty areas. Mine are photography and writing. Some other areas include design, editing, research, event planning, public presentations, and the list goes on. 

Show by example 

Create a page for each of your specialty areas, and use each page to elaborate on your experience in that area. Did you do a killer presentation in class? Add a photo or a link to your PowerPoint, and write a little bit about your presentation.  Do you have research experience? You can add a photo and link it to your published work. You can also type up the abstract on your portfolio. Do you write for publications or take photos? Add some links to your samples.

This is all about being able to show people what you’ve done. If you can’t think of anything, add in essays or other assignments you used for class. Everything is relevant.

NOW, SHARE THE HECK OUT OF IT

Link to your portfolio as much as you can. Add your URL to your resume, and business cards. Add your link on your Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook accounts. The more you push your website, the more likely people will see it. Don’t be afraid to show your portfolio off. You worked hard on it, and people deserve to see how great it is!


Angela Flores is a first-year graduate student at Northeastern University where she studies Music Industry Leadership. She is a lover of all things culture, art, and advocacy, and loves trying to connect the three together. She sometimes blogs at This Hollow Trend.

When she is not obsessively reading through the piles of young adult novels she promised her high school self she’d read, you can find her reading VICE’s opinion-editorials, scouting local art venues, and trying to find time to sleep.